Tarot spread – lack of love spread

For (name, example): Louise

Card 1 - How do I perceive myself?
4 of Swords
You know thyself. You find yourself passive, waiting for a man to initiate a contact. Then you still wait for signs and synchronicities from the Universe (through dreams, meditations, song titles, numbers, etc.) to verify if he's the one worth of opening to. You're a thinker and a loner, but being out of touch, disconnected from the news, crowds, all kinds of distractions help you recharge your energy and remain your true self. You're spiritual and have an ability to use your astral/light bodies as well as the heart to communicate with loved ones in many dimensions.
The downside of the 4 of Swords is that you may wait too long to take action or make a decision on your own, even if you know all the facts. You may wait to the point of desperation for the Universe to push you and also, you may verify situations endlessly.
 
Card 2 -  How do men I'm attracted to see me? What do they think of me?
8 of Wands
They see you quite opposite to what you think of yourself, as above. They find you extremely active, impatient, determined, competitive, goal-orientated, persistent and strategic. You always have a plan whether it's A, B, X or Z to hit the target as expected. Your communication may be quick and multiplied - you may be speaking fast, loud and dominating, repeating what you already said, texting, calling and emailing the same person during a short period of time. Men find you dynamic, self-confident, ready to take action and continue until a goal is reached. They find your sexuality passionate, orgasm-orientated, ready to accelerate then explode like a rocket! They think you're emotional, that it's easy for you to express love, jealousy, anger, all kinds of feelings. A love/hate kind of a person. You may also have like-minded friends to help you get what you want by teaming up.
 
Card 3 - What mistake(s) do I make each time I try to establish a relationship?
3 of Swords
Swords mean words, thoughts, voice, communication. You use your brain for love, instead of leaving it to the heart and body. You may be thinking or talking too much about love instead of feeling the energy of it. You may have a need to verify if it's love, friendship or a sexual attraction. This brings doubts, fears, anxiety, run'n'chase behaviors, mind games, misunderstandings. You may be very judgmental and critical towards the one you love, even if your goal is to improve the relationship or a person only. Remember that an energy you send returns to the sender.

Card 4 - What is a cause of my high standards in love?
VI Lovers
Perhaps you met someone in the past who offered you everything you needed, then one of you walked away as it was a short lasting romance. This created a template in your emotional body and the mind to compare every next person to the one who was perfect. This can reach as far as to past life relationships, marriages your soul never forgot and it desires to recreate them whenever possible. On the other hand you might have read a lot about the perfect match, watched romantic movies etc. and these created your high standards.
Finally, you may be a twin flame who carries a template (in your cells, atoms, DNA, a memory, higher self, light body) of the other half. It's your mission to find the One, complete and activate yourself, which obviously won't make you settle down for anybody less then the other part of you.

Card 5 - What should I change about myself to attract a healthy and lasting relationship?
9 of Pentacles
Self-love is what you need in the first place. When you feel good by yourself not looking for an outside attention, when you are your best friend, you love and respect yourself like you would do a man, then you will attract a healthy relationship. You also need to care for your body, have some hobbies, become financially and mentally independent, assertive and self-confident. You must not put a man on a pedestal but equally to yourself. Never feel a victim or less than other people. You need to have something to offer so a relationship could start off. It feels like a lot of work to do but in the end, you will know that you are your best company, and if it happens, you can also die alone without being attached to anyone. This doesn't mean being selfish, but having your boundaries and showing them to others. This way a heartbreak won't devastate you as you'll come back to yourself safely and give yourself what the other didn't offer, until you meet another interesting man to reach out to.

Card 6 - What kind of relationship suits me better - short term and explosive, or long term but requiring some work to adjust?
Knight of Cups
Rather one for the keeps, but also any which is based on true love, driven by the heart and where feelings are expressed openly. Avoid players and friends for benefits. If it's not based on true love, it's a game, a competition, or a business.

Card 7 - What are my expectations towards another human being?
Ace of Swords
You desire to be inspired and mentally excited. You love and seek the truth, facts and seriousness. The way to your heart is through your mind, intuition, an insightful conversation, word plays, mind games, flirtation, guessing, creativity, the perfect intellectual compatibility. But when a relationship is established, you're interested in deep conversations, truth telling and making plans rather than mind games. A good communication and refreshing ideas are a must for your relationship to last.

Reader: Drakonia
Date: August 14th, 2020
Deck: Night Sun mini